The current Jennifer Lopez Sex Tape Scandal which has the world abuzz provides a tremendous lesson for both dating singles and married couples.
The sex tape scandal involves Lopez’s honeymoon antics with her first husband, Ojani Nao. Jennifer Lopez has been married 3 times and is presently married to Marc Anthony with whom she has fraternal twin children.
Marriages may come and go, your divorced spouse is forever.
For singles, remember that the person you are dating now, in evolutionary thinking, will be in the community tribe in your area after you break up should you not marry each other. Whatever you say, whatever you do, every photo you take together, will live on in memory and with all of the wonderful electronics toys out there, might have been captured and recorded for posterity. And others in your tribe could hear about it on some level.
Men are highly visually stimulated and are often requesting to photograph or video record intimate moments and intimate moments with their partners. Just know that if you agree, that image is digitally captured and stored on your smart phone or computer. And also know that when it is transferred from mobile device to computer, it goes over the internet. Those images are at risk for being hacked, captured and shared. This can come back to bite you either socially within your community. It could end up in adult oriented groups at MySpace. It could go up on Twitter or someone’s page at Facebook.
For marrieds, you may be darlingly romantically in-love with your spouse or life partner now. However, divorce does end close to 50% of marriages, which does not even include tracking the ending of life partner non-marriage relationships. Many relationships over the years do indeed end. Some amicably and some not so amicably.
Your ex-wife or ex-husband will be your former spouse for the rest of your life. You will have that relationship for many years to come. Be careful.
Protecting Your Children: While talking about intimate topics is something every parent wants to do with their children, having that conversation should be well thought out and planned.
Prenuptial Agreement: If you two agreed to the photo taking and video recording of any of your intimate moments, just remember, these will all be part of the separation and divorce agreement. You might want to include this as a topic in your prenuptial agreement early on while you are feeling amicable and adult in your communications. Least you think, “Oh that could never happen to me, we’re in love,” just remember people do stupid and foolish things while aroused with jealousy or anger which they would not do while behaving rationally and more emotionally calm.
Do be careful, and most of all, protect yourself.
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
Dating Over 50 Expert Coach
